Somewhere along the line of parenthood, I became a hippie mom. I don’t know how it happened, some sort of gradual process in which all of the things parents “should” do mixed up with all of the things I “wanted” to do, and…well, suddenly I’m this breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering hippie.
The thing I’ve noticed, in my 6 years so far of parenting, is that when it comes to this sort of stuff – the “AP” stuff, the “crunchy” stuff – people tend to think you do it for some kind of deeper motivating reason. People breastfeed because they think it’s so much better than formula, it makes babies smarter and healthier. People wear babies because they feel it’s intrinsically better and more nurturing than a stroller. People cloth diaper because it’s better for the environment and baby’s skin. It’s all some kind of movement to do better, more natural, more in tune with their baby parenting.
From what I see, there is a very loud and vocal minority who do these things for some kind of deep reason. These people start petitions, do nurse-ins, write blogs, do magazine articles, and any number of things to draw attention to the things they do and the reasons they do them. A larger, quieter majority of people are like me: they do them for no reason at all other than it works for them.
Quite honestly, for me, it’s about saving money and being lazy.
Breastfeeding is free, and other than the initial learning curve when a baby is first born, it’s a whole lot easier for me too. Now, I know that’s not true for all women – heck, I was one of them the first time around! It just didn’t work for whatever reason (that’s a whole other blog post), so he was a formula baby and he’s awesome for it. But, given the choice, I’d rather save the money and the hassle of making (and then cleaning) bottles, carrying formula, and all the other stuff that goes with formula feeding.
Baby wearing is another way I slack. I could, in theory, cart a stroller around – but it would take up a lot of space in my trunk. Then, I couldn’t change diapers in my trunk, so I’d have to carry a diaper bag instead of just storing that stuff in the car. Then, I’d have to drag said diaper back into, well, everywhere and change diapers in a bathroom. Also, when I do take a stroller, it’s largely for Danny… He needs somewhere to help him focus, sometimes, and while we’re working on teaching him to walk and stay close, sometimes it’s just a whole lot easier and more enjoyable for everyone to let him ride. I’d really rather not mess with a double stroller – those things look huge and awkward to me – so I strap Andrew to my chest and we go. I don’t have to worry about pushing a stroller, keeping an eye on it when I need my hands free for other stuff, he’s just right there. (Added bonus as a speech therapy mom, it’s a whole lot easier to do shared attention and let him hear me talk about stuff when he’s up high!)
A lot of people will try to catch me on cloth diapers. “A ha!” you say. “Cloth diapering takes a lot of laundry, which kills your whole lazy theory, you crazy hippie chick!” Well, yes and no. First, let’s go back to the whole saving money aspect. I am
cheap frugal, and you can get a whole stash of diapers that will last you until 2+ for the price of a couple months of disposable diapers. Then, when you are done with them, you can re-sell them! Cha-ching! But cloth diapering also kind of lands in the lazy zone for me simply because I don’t have to leave the house. My goodness, with 2 in diapers, I felt like I was constantly running to the store to buy diapers – even when I bought to huge boxes! I can throw a bunch of cloth diapers in the washing machine and not have to think about them for an hour, then toss them in the dryer and not have to think about them for another hour. And then, ta-da, I have a whole bunch of diapers I can stick on my kid’s butt again! No trip to the store, no dragging children out of the house, just some time spent hanging out at home doing whatever…or going out to whatever place I want to go, not some place I need to go.
So that’s how I slack. I don’t do these things because I want to change the world, just because I want to change my world…into a place where I have more money and more time for the things I like to do.
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Agreed! Especially on the cloth diaper thing. I seriously got lectured a couple times by non-cloth mama’s telling me all the stats (not really environmentally friendly cause you use more water/detergent, etc) I just liked using them and I don’t expect others to, it’s my personal choice
lol! You do it because it’s easy, we do it because it’s cheap. And because the cloth diapers are the only thing that can contain my boy’s blow outs and super soaker pees.
Now that I’ve read this post.. I’ll try my harderest not to plagerize! But you’ve nailed it on the head! I too AP because I’m just too darn lazy, or just trying to survive!
I didn’t realize it, but I, too was a ‘hippie’ mom! I think it was the very best! Thank you for sharing on NOBH!