Filed Under (Cochlear Implants) by Kel on 11-04-2009

The more Danny is mobile, the more I am beginning to see a whole new world of challenges that comes with having a deaf child – and the more I am thankful for cochlear implants!

If you have kids that are toddlers are older, you’ve been there: the age they are just beginning to explore. The whole world is so new to them, and for the first time, it’s within their reach! It’s a very exciting time, as a parent, and also a very trying one as our children begin to test boundaries. Until now, Danny’s boundaries had been easily defined, because he couldn’t really get anywhere near them.

Now, he’s all over them.

I thought I was prepared this time around. I mean, I just went through this with Eric, right? What I didn’t factor in was the essential difference between my boys: Eric has great hearing. When he started to crawl, a stern “Eric!” or “Stop!” from across the room would get him to pause and look back at me.

I keep trying the same thing with Danny.

It keeps not working.

Suddenly, I am living the life of a mom to a deaf child in earnest. I’ve practiced AVT until I was blue in the face. I’ve gone through ABRs and booth tests and hearing aids and surgeries and mapping sessions. I’ve slammed doors and bangs pots without seeing any reaction from my baby. But until I was sitting across the room, hopelessly out of reach while my too-fast son crawls toward something he without a doubt shouldn’t touch, unable to get his attention, a part of it hadn’t really sunk in.

This is not “woe is me, my son is deaf.” This is “oh holy crap, my son is deaf!”

All of a sudden I see it in stark clarity ahead of me, those times that he is without processors or has knocked them off or had defiantly taken them off and I need his attention, and he can’t hear me. Yikes.

How blessed am I, though, that those times will be limited, that most of the day I will be able to say he can hear me? Because at the same time that I am realizing all over again that my son is deaf, I also know that it won’t always be this way. One day, when he is much more used to his implants and proficient in their use, I will call across the room in a stern voice and my deaf son will turn to see what the problem is.


Not that I have time to ponder on it that moment. The pondering comes later, after I’ve launched myself to my feet and practically flown across the room, leaping over toys, dancing around the cat that’s laying on the floor, to scoop Danny up into my arms before he reaches his destination.

There is plenty of time to think about how profound and incredible our future is once the crisis is averted.




Nat on 11 April, 2009 at 9:23 pm #

Not that this is at all the same situation, but with Oreo going deaf I had one of those moments in a parking lot. I couldn’t get her attention and suddenly it hit me that I can’t just call out to get her to stop if a car comes. I had to run over and tap her on the side. Yikes.

Drew's Mom on 12 April, 2009 at 5:45 am #

Just wait, there is a day, in your very new future, where Danny will be going toward something he *knows* he can not have, or should not do.

You’re going to say something like, “Danny, that’s a no-no. Do you need timeout?”

And the behavior will stop. Because he understands, through hearing, the consequences. It truly is amazing, in so many regards. Not just the ablity to hear “no” but the ability to comprehend your language.

manda on 12 April, 2009 at 2:38 pm #

Just wait until he turns three and he doesn’t hear you- even when he hears you.

Ali on 12 April, 2009 at 4:05 pm #

Fun, sounds like a whole lot of baby proofing that you didn’t have to do with Eric, just on the off chance you aren’t looking at what he’s got.

And I agree with manda. my children hear me just fine they just don’t listen.

Good luck with this new challenge.

Lucas'Mommy on 12 April, 2009 at 7:49 pm #

I think you’ll be surprised at how soon that day comes… Lucas is already doing that – it’s one of my biggest CI indulgences!

Tammy on 16 April, 2009 at 8:51 am #

Oh how I know this feeling! By the end of the day I’m wiped out from chasing Aiden everywhere! I can’t wait for him to understand the word “no”. Our day is coming Kel. I think of all this chasing as my exercise for the day! LOL!

Heather on 21 April, 2009 at 2:17 pm #

Sounds like life gets more and more exciting for you.

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